2020 has been a challenging year and our young people are suffering. So many are lonely, isolated, anxious, depressed and without purpose. The transition to adulthood has always been tough, but we’re in a totally different world today.
One of the things that’s most lacking today for our kids is a mission or epic adventure that gives meaning to life. It wasn’t always this way. 200 years ago kids worked on the family farm or in the family business. They had a mission and it gave them purpose and direction. By the age of 13, kids were seen more as adults than children. They were never adrift in an interim existence we now call the “teen years.” Is it any wonder that teens struggle and get into trouble?
Like most kids, I was enthralled with superheroes. I would pretend to be superman or space ghost and vanquish all the bad guys. Spiderman was actually my favorite and his “spidey-sense” was what I wanted most. The friendly neighborhood Spiderman was on an epic adventure to protect his community and especially the little guy. These superpowers provided meaning and mission in his life.
But his life was far from easy. He was a teenager and he struggled with bullying, loneliness, anxiety, parent problems and more. He lived in 2 worlds and struggled with his identity. In the new series of movies starring Tom Holland, Tony Stark serves as a guide or mentor for young Peter Parker. I love the scene from Captain America Civil War where Tony meets Peter for the first time.
A good friend of mine just gave the gift of an epic adventure to his grandson. On this adventure I serve as the guide and the journey begins with SUPERPOWER DISCOVERY. I visited Aidan in Baltimore and we spent time at the Compassion Center and met friends and co-workers. We ended the day with a nice dinner at Fells Point on the Inner Harbor. This was all about connection getting to know Aidan’s strengths from people and from observation. After dinner, Aidan took the Clifton Strengths Assessment and got a scientific examination of his strengths. Now we begin the process of going deeper in understanding his Top 5 Strengths and learning how to deploy them effectively on a mission to change the world.
Imagine your son or daughter discovering their superpowers and learning how to deploy them in the world for good. That sounds like an epic adventure to me.
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P.S. It turns out that one of my top Clifton Strengths is much like spider-sense. It’s called Empathy and it’s the ability to feel what other people feel. People just start opening up and pouring their lives out to me because they sense that I understand them. It’s an amazing thing to see.
The modern world with all of its technology and now this COVID isolation is destroying our children.
The example being set by our leaders is exacerbating the problem. No one is listening. Our leaders attack each other; they rant and rave; accuse, point fingers; and throw temper tantrums. Everyone is labeled as “good” or “evil.” Aren’t we all either good or evil?
NO. IT’S NOT TRUE!
Have you read Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn?, His master work is The Gulag Archipelago. Solzhenitsyn had first-hand experience of evil in the Soviet Labor Camps. He interviewed many others and concluded that we are all capable of monstrous evil given the right circumstances. This video may be an easier way to learn more about Solzhenitsyn’s ideas.
Watch Now! The Gulag… is a tough read.
Right now, many of us are putting teenagers in the “evil” category. I hear things like this, “Teens are monsters and nothing can be done. I can’t wait until they turn 18 and I can kick them out!” My heart is breaking right now over this. Almost everyone is commiserating with the parents, but almost no one is standing with the teenagers. Most of the problems are not of their own making. There are some very challenging things going on with our teens today. It’s not the same as it was 20 years ago. There are powerful forces at work on them that they can’t control. They are shaping and molding them and being hard-wired in their brains.
If your child has not yet reached puberty, you may not be seeing this, but it’s coming. Your precious child will turn into a monster unless you are proactive. If you keep treating them like they’re 6 or 8, you and they are in for a very challenging time.
We all have subconscious beliefs that are hard-wired in our brains. These are prejudices and we all have them. Yes, we all have them! Anyone who labels themselves as good has neglected to examine their inner life. You can break the word down into pre and judge. Based on our past, we pre-judge many things. This is one of the best reasons to go into therapy. You examine the thinking and experiences that have shaped what my therapist calls “automatic thinking.” Our brains get hard wired and these subconscious prejudices shape everything we do. To combat this, we need to identify and examine this “automatic thinking.” We also learn by listening to others and having civil discourse.
Are you ready to adjust your approach?
It’s not going to be easy. It will require a lot of work on The 3 Pathways. It will be a tough journey over some treacherous mountains. You’ll want to bring a guide along who knows the way. Do it for you and your kids! It’s never too late to make some changes.
The future of a whole generation is hanging in the balance.